Caring for parents living with dementia while continuing to work can be an incredibly challenging balancing act, something many people experience but few talk about openly. Wendy knows this all too well. Over recent years, she has cared for her father, who lived with dementia until his passing, and now supports her mother, who is living with mild cognitive impairment, all while maintaining her career as an accountant. “I’ve chosen a profession with strict deadlines, and when you’re a carer, you face deadlines of a different kind – they can collide,” Wendy explained. “Sometimes you just can’t do it all, no matter how hard you try.”
This kind of juggling requires resilience, flexibility, and support, both personally and professionally. One of the biggest challenges carers face is managing the unpredictable demands that come with dementia, which don’t always fit neatly into a nine-to-five schedule. Medical appointments, sudden health concerns, and the emotional weight of caregiving can clash with workplace expectations, making it difficult to maintain harmony between both worlds.
Being proactive means reaching out to your employer or HR department to discuss your situation openly. Many workplaces now recognise the growing number of employees who juggle caregiving roles and offer flexible arrangements such as remote work, adjusted hours, or leave options. The key is to articulate your needs clearly and collaborate on solutions that can work for both you and your employer.
At the same time, setting boundaries and prioritising self-care are vital. Carers often feel the pressure to “do it all,” but it’s important to remember that taking time to recharge is not selfish, it’s necessary. Whether it’s scheduling regular breaks during the day, seeking respite care, or reaching out for support from community services or carer networks, these steps can help reduce burnout and improve overall wellbeing.
Finding harmony between work and caregiving doesn’t mean having everything perfectly balanced every day, rather, it’s about creating a sustainable rhythm that allows you to fulfil your professional role while honouring the needs of your loved one and yourself. Sharing your experience, seeking support, and fostering understanding at work can make a significant difference in managing this complex journey.
